Wednesday, November 12, 2014

We Need to Fail.


To be completely honest and simply blunt, you know what really sucks? Failure. It might be an inconceivably low score on a test, a mercy-ruled loss in a finals game or a lost club election. No matter what it is, failure is never an easy pill to swallow. It can hurt ten times harder than a sock in the stomach and, no matter the degree, it will always be a pivotal moment. Failure pushes us towards a crossroads where we have to make a decision: What are you going to do next? Do you drop your favorite class or do you study your butt off for the next test? Do you pack your bags or do you start practicing tomorrow for next year's championship?

Yes, failure can feel pretty crappy but here's the thing: we need failure.  If failure doesn't hurt, then you're not trying hard enough. If you haven't experienced this devastating failure then how do you know if you've truly found your passion? If you're not experiencing this punch-in-the-stomach kind of failure then you're not going for enough. Nothing worth fighting for ever came easy and, even though it hurts, we do need it every once in a while. Failure humbles us when we're rolling on a string of successes, it reminds us of the risks we're taking and, ultimately, why we're taking them.

Although failure can ruin a good week and plant you on your bed with a bottle of wine and a tub of Ben and Jerry's, we need this it. Failure is a stepping stone to success. It's not the end of your dreams. We need to fail before we can win. We need to fail to measure our successes but also to measure our passion and our drive. We need failure to knock us on our butts every once in a while purely to remind us that we can pick ourselves back up. "Success is the ability to go from failure to failure without losing our enthusiasm". Success comes from channeling your emotions after failure into motivation and determination in order to brave the next challenge. Failure shouldn't be fatal, it should be fuel. We can't fully appreciate our successes without failure and we can never achieve full success without a few bumps in the road. It may be hard, but it's worth it and we are better for it.

What do you think about this? Have you ever had a time that failure aided your success?
Emily


4 comments:

  1. The one time that comes to mind where failure aided my success was when I was failing Statistics and needed to pass all my remaining test with a B or higher to past the class. I studied by butt off, took tutoring, and did every practice and extra credit assignment possible, and I passed. Without failing the first two tests, I may have missed that I had the discipline to get what I needed to get done and all it took was finding out how not to do it through failing.

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    1. Thanks for sharing your story Felecia! I've definitely been there with a class but it feels great after you work hard and pass at the end of the semester!

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  2. Such a great post! I read another post on failure a few days ago (I'm thinking this is beginning to become a recurring theme in my life, lol) from A Chic Lifestyle. Here's the link if you want to check it out: http://www.achiclifestyle.com/2014/11/failure-and-success-richard-branson-virgin.html

    Hayden
    mylifeashayden.blogspot.com

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    1. I didn't see this! Thanks for the link Hayden, I'm going to check it out!

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